You can enable a direct link to download your own videos in admin under modules->flashapps->video player->settings. The youtube vids aren't saved to your server, just a thumbnail of the vid.. so that's why the link is still to youtube.
About the bots, there have been several good solutions here, just search the forum for "spam". Here's a good one:
http://www.boonex.com/forums/?action=goto&search=1#topic/spam-spam-spam-spam-IDEA-.htm
The bulk mail from your server probably isn't Dolphin related. You might want to make sure your server hasn't been compromised.
www.1circle.org
There is no direct link to our videos. It should be in bracket so that if anyone wants to put it into their site, they can.
Also embed code of the videos imported from youtube is of youtube but it should be of our site.
One more critical error dolphin is facing is bot terror.
Bots are fixed mainly from china and russia and automatic sign ups take place. They also use our server to send bulk emails.
This should be corrected.
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