1. Get a book on UNIX or Windows servers and read / educate yourself.
2. Developers are not baby sitters.
3. Goto http://php.net/ and read. a lot of the mystery can be removed by taking some time to learn what makes Dolphin tick.
4. Support, paid or volunteer are not baby sitters.
5. Goto http://www.mysql.com/ and read. Many more of your questions can be answered there.
6. Goto: http://www.w3schools.com/js/default.asp and read.
7. Goto http://www.w3schools.com/css/ and read.

Once see more you gain some what of an understanding of the platforms ( and this above names but a few ) your frustrations will diminish and turn playing with Dolphin into fun times. If not, you need to hire a web master. (g)

Good Luck