Project, I'm also building an adult community/swinger site and I understand your concerns about getting members. I thought your post was right on by the way. You have every right to post what you did.

I've been in adult for a few years now, mostly blogging and affiliate work. Have a few projects working now and this one is actually the one that is the biggest gamble so to speak.

SEO is definitely part of the equation, but I think there needs to be more done to acquire a good steady membership see more base. I keep racking my head over it as well.

Dolphin may well be the perfect software for this but there seem to be too many bugs with it at moment. I'm hoping 7 is super clean. I don't expect perfection but I do expect some major fixes.