I'm taking a moment to stop in here and let the community know that John McGrew, Mydatery, passed away at 4:52 PM on Sunday, May 9th, 2010. He had contracted Strep Troat and there were complicatons with it. By the time he went to the doctor on Friday afternoon it was too late for them to do much else except make him comfortable.
I'm an old friend of his and I know how much he loved the Dolphin program so I'm stopping in to just let you guys know this. He was a bit rough with people from time to time but I know he really enjoyed helping out where ever he could. I'm not sure if anyone here had the chance to talk to him face to face or on the phone. If you did, I'm sure you know what I mean by saying that he was the most optimistic person I knew. He really did believe in people and their desire to do right. He was pretty passionate about Dolphin and his work in it.
He is survived by three daughters ages, 4, 6 & 8, a brother & 2 sisters. I will try to stop back in when I get a moment if people need any other information or updates. All of us here, his friends and family, do know he is in a better place and at God's side.
We do have one question and that is what do we do with his account here? He did requst that his work be continued on behalf of his daughters.
**Update: I would like to take this time on behalf of John's family and all of his friends to thank everyone for their condolences and to maybe explain better what I meant when I said complicatons.
John didn't die directly from the Strep. He still had his tonsils and they became very swollen, which is what finally got him to go to the doctor for help on Friday. The doctor sent him to the Emergency Room after looking at his throat and after that there were complications. They gave him an IV so they could put in Morephine, a steroid and a couple of other items. It was supposed to reduce his pain and the swelling of his throat. The drugs caused him to vomit and the vomit went into his lungs because it couldn't get out of his throat with it swollen so bad.
I really can't describe this anymore, so please forgive me. It's a very difficult thing to talk about, as I knew him pretty much my whole life. He was one of the greatest friends I have ever had.
To try to answer other questions, John was a good provider for his family and thought constantly about his girls. No one needs to worry about their financial well being. They are very well taken care of and with their mother. It is sad that they will not grow up with him, but his brother, myself and other friends are stepping in as best as we can to help with it.
He was divorced, for about 3 years and he was dating a woman. They aren't married, she was more or less his business partner when it came to Dolphin also. Her name is Kathie and he called her Kat.
I pointed out to his brother about the fund that has been started and he was touched by it. But he also pointed out that John never excepted charity in his life. He said that he would think John would want that to go into the Dolphin program if people want to create a way to remember him.
John used his Blackberry near the end to talk when he was awake. He gave those of us close to him passwords to things like Boonex and his servers. That's how I got in to his account. He was a strong Anabaptist and his family is grieving for the most part privately on this, as it is a very simple and basic type of life that they live.
Over the next couple of months we have to go through all of his business workings and figure out what is what. None of us are web site people and we need to figure out what he was up to. Kat has mentioned things to us that she knows of and where they are at. She admitted she doesn't know what most of it does, but she knows what a lot of it's supposed to do.
When I asked for help with it, I was asking for someone who understands all of this stuff to help us figure out what he was up to and hopefully give us a hand in finishing his work. Please understand, it will be a little time until we can do that as we have to set up things in his will that he wanted. JTadeo said it best below when he described how John came to Dolphin at first and how he learned. Everything was a huge passion to John, he poured his heart into learning and trying to make the world a little better. Yes, he was rough with people, in all parts of his life. But please know, he was also a very compassionate man.
If John had any open contracts, can you please give us a little time to take care of what we need to and then get in touch with us here privately. We would like to take care of any business that's unfinished however we can to protect his name.
Again, thank you to everyone. Your prayers, condolences and offerings of help are very much appreciated. His family would appreciate a chance to grieve and take care of everything the right way.
I guess this is life..
With regards to continuing with his Dolphin work, whenever things have smoothed out enough for someone to give it due attention, it may be a good idea to map out everything he has been working on, and take it from there. If such a list were shared here with the community, I'm sure you'd get a good deal of feedback and suggestions on the possibilities ahead.
Condolences to the family
- I cannot locate an obituary in the US or Canada reflecting the passing of a John McGrew on or even around that date anywhere.
- Knowing that he has left behind see more
Its strange isn't it, how you can feel you know someone when you've never met them, but that's the nature of the internet i guess, and i must admit i thought this was a joke at first because the news just felt so unbelievable.
As some of you will know, my belief system is that see more
I am looking into starting a McGrew MyDatery Fund, looking for the software now, as this is heart wrenching to leave three girls behind. see more
I would not think that someone would actually play a joke about this or at least hope not, however I also wanted to make my point to anyone doing so.
/DM
my thoughts to the wife and kids...
Regards
Wherever you are, I know you will help them with their php questions by giving them a sarcastic answer, we would not want it any other way
Thank you for taking time to report the sad news, it is obvious you were a true friend
Dawg, Code, Tyke - I will help see more
really a good thoughtful blogger in unity.
btw, does he own d7 community?
will it be shutdown too?
anyway, photo updates would be nice for now.
someone pl post it. atleast on flickr
John was our virtual friend and co-worker, so please let us know if there's anything we can do to help. BoonEx and Unity is a strong body and we can help.
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R.I.P. Mydatery and thank you.
But seriously, He was one of THE best programmers here, and very helpfull! We all have learned something from him!
My condolences to his family and his close friends, as they have lost a great one!
Derrick
when i read this make me cry guys Mydatery is my top friend here on Boonex and he help me a lot but im talking a lot and i can't believe wat happen to hem
this is to much for me
Thank's a lot Mydatery
R.I.P --->> We Miss You and We Will Remember On You All The Times
When John first came to Unity he didn't know the first thing to Dolphin. He didn't even know how install it. In time and I am sure with a lot of hard work, he became very proficient and was able to help out many who went through similar issues and problems when setting up a Dolphin site. After a while, see more
an my condolance to The family and friends.
We miss here a very enthousiast person.
He has helped many people out in Dolphin including myself and has always spoken things the way they are.
If he felt that something was being posted or done wrong he would post about weather it resulted in negative points/comments or not.
My prayers go out to the family and may he R.I.P.
I must admit that I am quite sceptical though. Like Zarcon, I cannot find anything on the death of any 'John McGrew' other than an elderly man and that was in April.
Unfortunately, I have experience in this area. I had a member of a social networking site I used to run, commit suicide. There were reports of it available almost immediately by simply Googling his name.
I find it a bit strange that his site doesn't have anything see more
Too sad to hear this news !
Sorry! Just my idiotic attempt to bring a smile to everyone's face in this sad time. I didn't really know mydatery, though like many of us, I did get to know of him through his many, many informative and sometimes controversial posts. Though I am quite sure he would have a perfectly formed and entertaining see more
RIP Mydatery.
My condolences to his family and friends and the rest of unity during this solemn time.
Once you get to the point when you're ready to deal with John's contracts and current agreements, please feel free to contact me at uno@boonex.com to discuss how they can be finalised effectively. We are happy to step in and finish his work, where possible and at no fee.
Regards,
DosDawg
i received a message from the poster of this information, and given the circumstances and consideration of bereavement, this person has asked that we understand the family wishes this to be a private matter in regards to the funeral. i have to respect that and understand fully.
Regards,
DosDawg
condolences to you and his family ..
if there are any open projects related to design - please let me know.
i won't charge you for this job....as i want the money go to his family...
regards
Gorpus Design Team
Regards Patrick
- Friday goes to the doctor, Friday evening to emergency room, and within 48 hours has died.
- Within 24 hours of death, a "close friend" has signed in using his account to announce his death only at Unity. Boonex is the only site see more
You must have further skipped over the entire point that was made afterwards. That being that they would have tried treating him - not just make him comfortable for two days while he died. You - yourself - stated that they aggressively treated Henson. I fail to see how that takes anything away from what I actually posted.
But thanks for playing.
I still don't understand what is going on with this, see more
John McGrew ( If this was his real name ) shows no deaths anywhere?
So, If you Knew John, you also Know he owns the site of: mydatery.com and some others.
No mention there... But mentioned here on Unity?
If one checks his registar: http://whois.domaintools.com/mydatery.com
MyDatery.com
John McGrew ()
Fax:
721 Vinette St
Unit 204
Peterborough, ONTARIO K9H7E9
CA
Shows he lives in Peterborough, ONTARIO see more
" The day was October 7th, 2008 and I had the brilliant idea of creating a website for the first time in my life. I decided to hop online & take a 1/2 hour course in HTML. Well I quickly learned you don't build a social networking site out of HTML.
But 68 Days later I launched MyDatery.Com. While it is probably the smallest online dating site so far, it is not the lowest in site options. Today, the first 100% Free Online Dating site now offers see more
that Sad news mydatery Dies :-(
he's was good man and help me when he could and is was one of the good guy here.
all time want help for People here.
Rest in peace mydatery - John McGrew
Lior from israel
I have one question for people who really dont believe this is true...
Q where is mydatery
Its been nearly a week now, dont you think if this wasn't true he would have been on..
Im sure Andrew will have been contacted by the person who initially posted with mydaterys account on here or we wouldnt have an official response from boonex. which we did.
I wish that MD would come on and tell us its see more
@HL - very good points you made. This is a "virtual world" were you can do anything you want without limitations.
@Lightwolf - Not sure if Andrew has his families contacts see more
1. No one is deceased.
2. We are all searching for the wrong name.
If somebody wants to jump in and prove me wrong, now's the time.
i'm so sorry... and good bye. ..
good bye john :(
anybody here know about his real picture?
(And it didn't get deleted so I know it was not staff that deleted it good try though)
I'm sorry you fought with my crew. I am sorry you were made to look like an ass. Truth of the matter is. Noone cared. Now that you have done this trying to fake your death of all things... now you REALLY look like an ass. And it's all your own doing. It's sad you would do that to people here some of which for whatever reason really like you.. see more
He he he.
They were right you are a straight up punk!
All in favor say I ?
1. There still is no proof either way
2. The same person who logged into his account may be logging into others, if they are being logged into.
3. Too many people are now noticing! How many is "too many"?
4. It hasn't turned out to be a Twisted Prank yet.
5. If you suspend MyDatery's account then we will never find out the truth.
1. I say I.
2. If its not him accessing the account it should be closed.
3. If it is him let him email Andrew to get his account reopened.
Regards
Jennifer
And for the skeptics...he was a real guy. I spoke with him on the phone and exchanged many emails while I was trying to get my site see more